There I was, pouring a second glass of wine, when she said “I think you just have to get really good at acceptance. Sometimes it is what it is, you know?”

No. I don’t know. I looked at my friend blankly and heard it screaming in my head “WHY?!“

For the majority of my life, I have bucked the status quo and said peace out to the norm. I’ve operated under the mindset of “If it sucks, it can be better.” and that has gotten me to a really good place, over and over again. Not good enough? Find what is. Make it. Dig it up from the hole it was laid to rest in 15 years ago and give it a new home and a warm bed. Saying “It is what it is” was never an option to me. Life is greater than that. Right? Besides, “it is what it is” sounded like resignation to me and dammit if I was about to be resigned about anything. For years resignation was weakness, shame, fear. I hid behind my war mask and fought resignation to the death. And then, with the words of my thoughtful and courageous friend ringing in my ears all weekend, it hit me:

Acceptance has a greater power than Resignation. It is stronger.

Acceptance is in the driver’s seat and Resignation is curling up in a ball in the trunk. 

Acceptance can give peace, shelter, comfort. Resignation serves up a bowl of cold tomato soup.

Acceptance creates momentum for other things in your life. Resignation lays a heavy iron curtain down on the whole sh-bang and makes you lay still for, well, as long as it wants.

The thing about Resignation is that it has the power to affect us all. To get you moving from Resignation to Acceptance, I give you seven mantras/power phrases/motivational whatevers to fuel your fire. Pick one or two, tack them all on your wall, use them as you wish. Repeat as needed.

And, << Test First Name >>, if you know someone who needs to transition, hit forward and give them this gift too.
 

• I am extraordinary. My acceptance proves my power.

• Acceptance is passion in motion. I accept this today to continue to live my passion tomorrow.

• The greatest gift I can give myself today is acceptance. 

• By accepting this as it is in this moment, I create space for new life.

• I am at ease in acceptance.

• Grace is Acceptance’s favorite cousin. I am a member of that family.

• Acceptance is a joyful choice. And it is my choice.

xo